Being The Mother Of A Son

by Kate on June 21, 2013

Alfie & I

This photo was taken in March 2008, when we finally got to take Alfie home from the hospital. He was 4 weeks old.

When Lex invited me to write about ‘Being the Mother of A Son’, I was thrilled. My excitement, however quickly gave way to mild panic and the question, what shall I write about?

I got to thinking and realised I could write oodles about the gorgeous, sensitive little guy I have on my hands. About his rocky beginning (born at 31 weeks) and the small but nonetheless difficult challenges that he faces every day.

But, instead I want to talk about love.

While I was thinking about Alfie. About him and I. I realised something important about the various men in my life.

I realised that Jason, my Dad, my Pa and my brother all adore the women in their lives. I have been a recipient of their love, whether as a partner, a daughter, a grand-daughter or sister. I cannot begin to express how incredibly lucky I feel. To have experienced, throughout my childhood and during my adult life, so much love from these men.

So, where did all this love come from? Is it intrinsic in each of us? Are we taught it?

I don’t know the answer. I suspect it is a combination of many things but I like to think that love begins in the home.

I firmly believe that a loving and secure environment gives each and every one of us the belief and confidence that you can tackle life head on. It has certainly been that way for me.

Now, you might be thinking where I am going with this? I am, after all supposed to be talking about being a mother to Alfie.

I guess what I am trying to say, is that the most important thing I can do for Alfie, is to love him. To love him so hard that he feels like he can take on all the good and the bad things that come his way.

That he can take my love and shower the world with it and when the time comes, he will know how to love that special (and very lucky) woman in his life.

Oh gosh, how very sentimental of me! What do you think? Do you think love begins in the home? Is it something we can teach our kids? Do they even love in the same way as us, their parents?

The gorgeous ladies below are writing about their own experiences of ‘Being the Mother of A Son’. Grab yourself a cuppa and settle in.

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PottyMouthMama
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Sadie and Lance
Pigeon Pair
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{ 24 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Pip June 21, 2013 at 7:07 am

Aw. Yep. Yes. I think it is all about love. I think the problems start when the love stops. Or wasn’t even there in the first place. Alfie’s lucky to have you! You are lucky to have Alfie. What a perfect pair you are! x

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2 Kate June 21, 2013 at 7:41 am

SO lucky.

Although I grew up with two brothers, there really is nothing like having a son.

Such a special bond.

Thanks Pip x

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3 Bree June 21, 2013 at 8:15 am

I have a son and daughter. Our son came first and I was so happy. It was like having a little boyfriend. A little date to take out :) I always thought that having a boy first would mean our subsequent kids got to have an awesome big brother. And he is. He is the most caring polite boy with just the right amount of mischief. Boys and mums have a special bond. As do dads and boys and mums and daughters.

Ps that is a gorgeous pic of you both.

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4 Kate June 21, 2013 at 9:38 am

I also have a girl but mine came first! It has been such a joy to see her nuture her younger brother, they are such good mates and being an older sister myself…I know how special their relationship is. Thanks for popping by x

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5 Kirst June 21, 2013 at 9:05 am

Yes … at home!

Lucky Alfie, lucky you! I love being the mother of my fella. I think I’m a better person for having had a son.

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6 Kate June 21, 2013 at 9:39 am

Me too mate!! xx

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7 rachael @ mogantosh June 21, 2013 at 10:02 am

Oh, love, love, love, it’s a beautiful thing. And look at that tiny baby! Ovulating! Ovulating! x

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8 Ruth June 21, 2013 at 10:19 am

L O V E.
yup. that totally IS what it is all about.
also….I am huge fan of sentimental. Heart on sleeve and all that.
beautiful post kate.
Your Alfie will grow into a fine man in amongst all that love.
xxx

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9 Kate June 24, 2013 at 8:41 am

If anyone knows what they are talking about, it is YOU!

x

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10 Andrea June 21, 2013 at 10:45 am

Heart overflowing brimming and spilling kind of love, thats it!! And with an intensity that never fails to suprise me.

And then there is the mischief…can’t go past the mischief!

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11 lexi June 21, 2013 at 10:45 am

That photo! THAT PHOTO! Swoon.

I really loved reading this Kate. And I absolutely agree. Love is all we need.

Thank you for being part of this. xxx

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12 Kate June 24, 2013 at 8:40 am

Aww, thanks Lex and A BIG thank you for inviting me to take part.

It has been wonderful reading x

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13 sarah Wheatley June 21, 2013 at 1:52 pm

Oh Kate. This post is as gorgeous as your Alfie. You are raising a gorgeous, sensitive,caring, loving, generous little guy. Well done. It is after all the most important job in the world! And I’m with Lex, that photo is to the moon and back Divine. Capital D! x

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14 mel @ loved handmade June 21, 2013 at 2:09 pm

it is absolutely all about the love. what a beautiful post..x

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15 Georgia Sutton June 21, 2013 at 2:27 pm

Love is the answer.

Beautiful post.

Gx

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16 flowerpress June 21, 2013 at 2:31 pm

Beautiful Kate, made me a bit teary. We are lucky to be surrounded by lovely boys.

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17 Kate June 24, 2013 at 8:39 am

So VERY lucky Susie x

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18 Pippa June 21, 2013 at 8:10 pm

What a lovely series of posts! I agree with ‘just love’ especially when they are at their most trying ….yr 9&10! :)

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19 Kate June 24, 2013 at 8:39 am

I cannot even BEGIN to imagine what that will be like!

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20 Pippa June 21, 2013 at 8:59 pm

I agree with the love bit too! x

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21 Bianca June 21, 2013 at 10:09 pm

I do think we need to be shown how to love, Kate. We really do. And it starts with us as parents. I know from the conversations we’ve had and what I read of Alfie that he’s a beautiful boy. He’s so lucky to have you as a Mum. Thanks for reminding me that sometimes, love is all you need. Xxx

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22 Kate June 24, 2013 at 8:40 am

Thanks Bianca! Sometimes the simplest things are the ones we need reminding of x

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23 Clare from Checks and Spots June 25, 2013 at 6:38 am

Hello fellow mama of an Alfie! Maybe it’s something to do with that name…but my Alfie sounds just like yours (and born exactly a year later than your Alfie!)

Your words are so true…it’s really does all come down to love, doesn’t it?

I’m so thrilled to have connected with your corner of the world through this fab blog up. I’ll def be dropping by again very soon! xx

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24 Helen August 8, 2013 at 11:01 am

I was listening to the radio a while ago, and Australia’s first female bishop was talking. She has twin boys, about 20. She has obviously had an amazing life, achieved so much, been a pioneer, etc. She was asked what she hoped for her boys in their life. She said “that they love”. I was stopped in my tracks. so simple, so complete.

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